Al Ritter
I always referred to this as building allies but there
is an actual term for this that Psychiatrists use called flying monkeys. Yes it
is a reference to the Wizard of Oz.
I can only talk about certain circumstances that
relate directly to me, so I’ll try to impart that to you. The Narcissist tries
to recruit people to their side against you. It always involves falsehoods and
outright lies against their victim.
In my marriage it involved a bunch of women that my
spouse used to invite over to my house, always when I wasn’t home. One night
when I arrived home after one of their meetings, they attacked me in force
about their “man hatred.” I have to admit I was blindsided but as a result
never allowed them back in the house again. It seemed that she had told them
some lie about me. Monkeys abound they were flying all about!
Fast forward to the new Malignant Narcissist. One day
I observed the Narcissist was walking up our mutual property line with his two
adolescent children in tow. Once at the top of the property he continued to
walk down the heavily congested street out front which is pretty narrow with a
child in each hand. I kept thinking to myself he’s going to get killed on that
street with those kids.
He was on a mission to the neighbor on the other side
of me dragging his two sacrificial lambs with him. I could see this all play
out from my recliner in the man cave.
Once he had arrived he struck up a conversation with
the other neighbor in his back yard with his two children in hand (I had never
seen him holding their hands like that before.) I can only assume that he was
using his two kids as pawns in the game of his diabolical narcissism. They
stood in the other neighbor’s backyard staring and pointing to my property all
the while holding the children’s hands.
Once he returned to his property he released the kid’s
hands and they were on their own.
He has texted me multiple times in the past “all the
neighbors warned me about you.” Which was wishful thinking on his part as only
he met very few since he moved in 3 years ago. The rest of the neighbors amount
to over 10 now and don’t really like him or his attitude towards his neighbors.
The rest of the neighbors have lived harmoniously together in this area for
decades and don’t spread lies about each other.
Flying Monkeys……the recruitment of people against you,
be prepared for it…. the question is not if but when!
Video here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lDclCIFQML8
4 comments:
Using ones own children to appear more likeable is despicable. It's a shame they can't see that they are being used yet.
We had this guy at work that used to spread rumors about this poor woman constantly she finally got so upset she quit her job. About 2 months later under recommendation from HR he was fired. Kinda wished we had her back now.
Narcissists are bad news to anyone they come in contact with, i'm sorry to hear you had to deal with two of them Al
@ Billys grand dad....Me too my friend, but this last one was tougher on me than the first
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